J.J. BROWN: Hello … Maybe you you can help me out. Me and My wife have been married now for 4 years. The First 2 years I so enjoyed being married, we just both seemed so happy! I enjoyed every minute of it… the last 2 years have made me or should I say us both feel different. We were only 22 when we got married. Both in college and starting our career paths… I was so in love at the time that I thought it was best for us to get married, I wanted her to be in my life forever… Now a days we walk right past each other sometimes, no more holding her in my arms, or the sweet things… sometimes I really believe she hates me… I thought long and hard the other day and I still Love my wife. I know it sounds cliche but I want that old thing back…. My question is simple… How do I go about rekindling the fire that once burned strong or do I just let it go and get a divorce???

RELATIONSHIPS & LOVE 101: Hello Mr. Brown, I believe you two should have gave each other more time to grow and learn each other before marriage! See the things you think you know and like about a person may change over time. I def can relate to wanting a person in your life forever… but enough of the bs…. If you really LOVE her then you take her out to dinner or cook for her… sit down and talk. Put everything on the table basically pour your heart out. COMMUNICATION is the KEY. No matter how you feel if she isn’t on the same page… how you feel really doesn’t matter. I say try to rekindle but you have another half that needs to want to rekindle as well!!!